This has been a good thread, free of trolls and full of smart people. I haven’t had to delete any comments or curse anyone out, which I must admit surprises me with this topic.

Anyway, hope to see you around again.

Rhianna will be some kind of wrong if she does not testify to what happened.

I am always amazed how many ghetto passes are issued out to high profile figures when they are obviously abusers.

But, Chris gets no love from me for what happened. It is what it is and it was ugly!

Both of them need to seek professional help. Because it is obvious that they both have major issues to resolve.

If someone hits you once, [LEAVE].

Actually, we need to start promoting that as gospel. There IS NOTHING a woman can do that will motivate or justify physical violence from a man or vice versa.

Do human beings have breaking points? Sure. However to say that a breaking point equals a reason or justification of any kind seriously misses the point.

How, for example, do you determine what is/is not a justifiable breaking point?

Just as all people have breaking points every individuals point of no return is different. Implying in any way shape or form that this behavior is victim motivated opens the floodgates for domestic violence for even the slightest infraction with ‘hey I just reached my breaking point’ as an instant excuse.

I don’t care what you color you are, what gender you are or what communities you belong to, there is no such thing as a victim motivated domestic violence attack.

To imply otherwise is to place people of both genders at further risk for violence and worse coaches those in the position to help to disbelieve or place blame where it simply doesn’t belong.

At your breaking point?

Walk Away.

When they asked Natalie Cole what she thought, she said, “I’m not surprised, it’s part of this business. I love them both.” Unlike most celebs she wasn’t trying to be politically correct.

This is an ongoing problem and I just wish it was treated as such. I hope we are always this upset, and not because it’s too stars. People wasn’t this outrage with Michael Jackson the second time around, when he already new better guilty or not.

Does that mean, I don’t think we should discuss it? No, I just want to put it in perspective. If it’s wrong, then stay outraged.

You are not the lynch mob, Robin Givens, media hogs, and these so called “supporters” are the lynch mob…

My myth that I want to add that I hear from other women, whenever you try to be objective about the situation:

Myth 1: That means you condone violence. That means you except violence against women. You don’t know what it’s like to be abused.

Myth 2: There isn’t anything a woman can do that could make a man hit her.

On myth 1, what Chris Brown did was wrong!!! I think we can all agree on that. Does that make him a serial abuser? Maybe, Maybe Not. Does that make me hate him? No. Do I sympathize with him? Yes. Do I sympathize with Rihanna? Yes. Do I condone violence against women? No! Do I condone violence against men? No! Do I think Chris Brown should go to jail? Perhaps, but only cause it’s the law, not because I think he will learn his lesson there.

On myth 2, we really need to stop believing that. Every human has a breaking point, and violence hurts no matter the source. Does that mean it justifies Rihanna getting beat down like Mike Tyson? Hell No! Does it mean we need to rethink how we teach our daughters to love? Yes! Does that mean we also need to teach out sons? Yes!

When Will We Be Allowed To Denounce Black Male Misogyny Without Fear Of Losing Our Blackness Card?</blockquote?

He’s back.

Anyone who reads the affadavit should come to the conclusion this is a serious crime.

You, Mark Anthony Neal, Renee, Anxious Black Woman, Professor Tracy said it was wrong. It takes a PhD to point out the obvious.